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My greatest fear in life is neither death nor notever finding my ideal woman. Rather, it's findingthe exact opposite of my ideals, living andfalling madly in love with her, and casting allelse aside. Some days, it's the scariest thoughtthat keeps me awake in the wee small hours of themorning. Love is an adrenaline rush, anexhilirating roller coaster ride that makes youbrave enough to dare and dream. It a wonderfulexperience to feel it. It brings you happiness,jealousy, sadness, excitement and every otheremotion that makes you human and feel alive. Here are my two-cents worth of learnings from loving.
Love has to be tested. As fire purifies gold,trials and difficulties can either strengthen thelove you feel or ultimately show you that thislove isn't true. It's always easy to love a personwhen everything between you is calm and okay.However, it is difficult to love someone when youare going through tough times. It's difficult tolove a person when the world seems to pull the twoof you in different directions. If you are able torise above the challenges, with your love for eachother unwavering, then consider yourself, blessedbeyond measure.
Love is defined by balanced exposure. You can'treally be sure if love is what you feel if you'realways together doing the same things. You'll knowit's love if after being away from each other forsome time, if after meeting different people andif after pursuing your own passions in life, andyou still carry the torch for the same man orwoman, that's love. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, you need to give the otherperson the time and the space to think thingsthrough, to finally put the gray areas of yourrelationship in black and white, to hear histhoughts more clearly, and of course, to miss you.
Love is acceptance. Love is not about "SupermanComplex." You don't love a person because youthink he needs rescuing. You can't change aperson, you can only love that person enough tomake him want to be a better man or woman. Lovedoesn'thave to feel like you're settling. It's aboutfeeling like you've just found one of the world'sgreatest treasures and not wanting to exchange itfor anything in the world. Someday, someonefunnier, sweeter, richer, more responsible, muchmore charming, much more beautiful would comealong. Unless you find the person you love perfectjust the way he is, perfect in his ownimperfection, you would never be contented andhappy in this relationship.
Love really begins with friendship andfamiliarity. I used to think that platonicrelationships gone romantic, is like puttingvinegar in congee. It makes something warm andcomfortable, sour. I was foolish in believing thatfamiliarity breeds contempt. I guess, I knowbetter now. The only way to say that you trulylove a person is if you know him and what betterway to do it than being friends. It relieves youthe pressure of being at your best all the time,of being too perfect, of being too good. Nopretenses. Seeing the flaws in a person will helpyou asses if this is a person you see yourselfgrowing old with, someone you think you couldlisten to, someone you can respect. If the love ofyour life is also your best friend, I think it'sone of the best evidences that God does exist andlooking out for you. So often, he or she hasbecome a source of encouragement and comfort, warm feelings or a good laugh, just at the rightmoment. Often, talking to that person helps youhear your thoughts better and figure out theanswers you need.
Love is not automatic but manual. You need to work it! Love is tough and it needs hard work.Love is like a rose. You need to take care of itor else, it dies. You need to decide and love thatperson even on days when he's absolutelyunlovable, on days when he absolutely drives awayevery drop for sanity in you, and on days when youjust want the earth to swallow you alive. I guess,Love is a lifetime effort.
After all these learnings, it's difficult toimagine why I'm still loveless. Well, I'm onlyloveless, not hopeless. Love moves in mysteriousways and I truly believe that a wonderfulblessing is on it's way to find me.
IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER, BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL.
Love makes us see the things through rose- colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you haveto let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. Atime to be sensible and not to allow our hearts to rule over our heads.
YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN OR WOMAN WHO KEEPS YOU WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE YOU NOW AND LOVE YOU FOREVER.
If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin...it's what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin.
DON'T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS FOR REAL LOVE DOESN'T HAVE A PLACE FOR SELFISH PEOPLE.
When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly, we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.
Loving too much doesn't hurt...it is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin toseek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.
DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE.
Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.
GOD WAKES US IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY PEOPLE WE LOVE SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR OWN NEEDS.
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My greatest fear in life is neither death nor notever finding my ideal woman. Rather, it's findingthe exact opposite of my ideals, living andfalling madly in love with her, and casting allelse aside. Some days, it's the scariest thoughtthat keeps me awake in the wee small hours of themorning. Love is an adrenaline rush, anexhilirating roller coaster ride that makes youbrave enough to dare and dream. It a wonderfulexperience to feel it. It brings you happiness,jealousy, sadness, excitement and every otheremotion that makes you human and feel alive. Here are my two-cents worth of learnings from loving.
Love has to be tested. As fire purifies gold,trials and difficulties can either strengthen thelove you feel or ultimately show you that thislove isn't true. It's always easy to love a personwhen everything between you is calm and okay.However, it is difficult to love someone when youare going through tough times. It's difficult tolove a person when the world seems to pull the twoof you in different directions. If you are able torise above the challenges, with your love for eachother unwavering, then consider yourself, blessedbeyond measure.
Love is defined by balanced exposure. You can'treally be sure if love is what you feel if you'realways together doing the same things. You'll knowit's love if after being away from each other forsome time, if after meeting different people andif after pursuing your own passions in life, andyou still carry the torch for the same man orwoman, that's love. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, you need to give the otherperson the time and the space to think thingsthrough, to finally put the gray areas of yourrelationship in black and white, to hear histhoughts more clearly, and of course, to miss you.
Love is acceptance. Love is not about "SupermanComplex." You don't love a person because youthink he needs rescuing. You can't change aperson, you can only love that person enough tomake him want to be a better man or woman. Lovedoesn'thave to feel like you're settling. It's aboutfeeling like you've just found one of the world'sgreatest treasures and not wanting to exchange itfor anything in the world. Someday, someonefunnier, sweeter, richer, more responsible, muchmore charming, much more beautiful would comealong. Unless you find the person you love perfectjust the way he is, perfect in his ownimperfection, you would never be contented andhappy in this relationship.
Love really begins with friendship andfamiliarity. I used to think that platonicrelationships gone romantic, is like puttingvinegar in congee. It makes something warm andcomfortable, sour. I was foolish in believing thatfamiliarity breeds contempt. I guess, I knowbetter now. The only way to say that you trulylove a person is if you know him and what betterway to do it than being friends. It relieves youthe pressure of being at your best all the time,of being too perfect, of being too good. Nopretenses. Seeing the flaws in a person will helpyou asses if this is a person you see yourselfgrowing old with, someone you think you couldlisten to, someone you can respect. If the love ofyour life is also your best friend, I think it'sone of the best evidences that God does exist andlooking out for you. So often, he or she hasbecome a source of encouragement and comfort, warm feelings or a good laugh, just at the rightmoment. Often, talking to that person helps youhear your thoughts better and figure out theanswers you need.
Love is not automatic but manual. You need to work it! Love is tough and it needs hard work.Love is like a rose. You need to take care of itor else, it dies. You need to decide and love thatperson even on days when he's absolutelyunlovable, on days when he absolutely drives awayevery drop for sanity in you, and on days when youjust want the earth to swallow you alive. I guess,Love is a lifetime effort.
After all these learnings, it's difficult toimagine why I'm still loveless. Well, I'm onlyloveless, not hopeless. Love moves in mysteriousways and I truly believe that a wonderfulblessing is on it's way to find me.
IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER, BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL.
Love makes us see the things through rose- colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you haveto let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. Atime to be sensible and not to allow our hearts to rule over our heads.
YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN OR WOMAN WHO KEEPS YOU WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE YOU NOW AND LOVE YOU FOREVER.
If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin...it's what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin.
DON'T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS FOR REAL LOVE DOESN'T HAVE A PLACE FOR SELFISH PEOPLE.
When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly, we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.
Loving too much doesn't hurt...it is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin toseek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.
DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE.
Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.
GOD WAKES US IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY PEOPLE WE LOVE SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR OWN NEEDS.
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