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The Wife and The Mistress

I was reading through my other discussions in another site and have read a very interesting response to one of the people who joined in the discussion. He/she was referring to the reasons why men cheat (or try to cheat) which included the constant paranoia of a wife, her unwilling nights and all her other 'failures' which has caused his man to venture out.

The respond reminded me of what a woman I have talked with (of whom the husband was caught cheating). She explained to me that men will never be men, for they will remain as boys. Should a man make his mistress a wife, he would find himself into the same situation he was with his original wife - the same uncaring, paranoid, unwilling, impatient woman.

Mistresses are often interesting, sweet, sexy, appealing and all the positive words any man could sexually conger up. They are so due to the main fact that they have nothing else to worry about apart from being the boy's toy, and could afford to pamper herself up the whole day because all she cares about is herself.

On the other hand, women who become wives are caught in an unending loop of routine and monotonous activities at home (cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and the husband) if she's a housewife, and an employee or a worked plus a mother and a wife if she is working.

So between the two, who do you think the 'boy' wants to go home to? I doubt it'll be the wife who is going nuts on how to juggle up her work with her family - not to mention the emotions and the stress. She can't be expected to function perfectly all the time with the loads of responsibility she is faced with, don't you think? And of course, there will be nights when she will have to say NO or doze off to sex because she has just outlasted her battery packs.

With all the responsibilities of a woman. I think it's highly insensitive or uncaring for a man to just take a mistress instead because he doesn't get what he wants, don't you think?

So, what do you think about that? Yes, women have faults too, but unlike Mistresses, a wife doesn't need so much expenses to be turned-on. A simple romance could rekindle the 'mistress' in her. Only if the boy could just be a man and show her that she is special.

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