Though there's no real formula to love, we should always be cautious on who we give out our heart. Falling in love is one of the greatest feeling one can get, but sad to say, many have also been hurt because of easily trusting people.
One of the highly used mediums of today to gain relationships is the internet. I could really say that about 95% of people going online and using chatting sites and programs are there to look for their special someone. Though some are legit and sincere, there are many who are in it for money or for the sake of gaining a lot of so-called girlfriends or boyfriends (they're just collecting).
The problem with these types of relationship, is that you can't really see the person for who he/she is. Yes, there are webcams and they could send out pictures, but by my own experience, I'd say there is around 85% chances that how they look online isn't how they look in real. Why 85% well, in my online life, I've met so many people already (most for friendship only a few for romantic links) and I could say not all of them look the same! True! When I met my fiance, yes I did meet him online, I swear he passed in front of me several times, and I honestly didn't notice it was him!
Another problem posted to online relationships is the fact that your romantic flare is limited to the use of technology. You can't really smell the person, you can't really experience the 'feel' of how he/she is in real (unless of course when you do meet up). So, when they do decide to meet, there are overwhelming differences and some attitudes may be far from what is expected. One of my experiences on this is when I first met a friend. She was really very outgoing online, but when we met, we were as silent as the tombs. I guess it was because I expected her to be loud, that's why when we met and she didn't really talk much, I had second-thoughts of maybe I met a different person. Hahaha..
But the single most common problem online is the honesty factor. In one of my readings here online, I stumbled upon an article with regards to the psychiatric activity of a person online. It said that people tend to lie more online rather than in person. I can really say it's true because around 90% of those chatting online would say that their single when in fact they're married. Anyone who lacks beauty can become the Ms Universe online. Even men become women and women may be men online. Not to mention that there are far more incidents of betrayal and cheating done online than in real life.
So, given these problems posted and more. Am I recommending or stopping people from falling in love online? No. As I first stated in this discussion, 'there's no right formula for love' each person has his/her own story of love, and who am I to tell them otherwise? right?
But I do have to share tips for you guys/gals there who are meaning to find mr. right or ms. right online. Here there are:
1. Try not to expect too much.
2. Meet up before committing.
3. Take it slow.
4. Meet before committing.
5. Meet before committing.
6. Meet before committing.
Hehe.. No, your eyes are not deceiving you, I did type 'meet before committing' several times because this is the best way for you to have a better relationship online. It's sad that most people have built their lives over someone online, only to find out after a long while, that the person (or our views on the person) doesn't really exist. I have a friend, who was so addicted with the online love, that when one of her suitors decided to send her a plane ticket to his place, she immediately jumped in and went there. To make the long story short, she got pregnant only to find out that the 5 kids in the guy's family home (with his parents and sister) was in fact his. And she didn't know that until she gave birth! Imagine the horror. And not only that, a wife existed too!
So, before plunging into the love pool. Please take a moment or two to use your minds before your heart. Yes, we might feel that we're lacking time, or view that the fish in the ocean are starting to dwindle and there might no longer be someone for you. But remember that you are a person of worth and of course as one of the most famous songs I've listened to for quite a long time now says:
LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF, IS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL.
Goodluck!
One of the highly used mediums of today to gain relationships is the internet. I could really say that about 95% of people going online and using chatting sites and programs are there to look for their special someone. Though some are legit and sincere, there are many who are in it for money or for the sake of gaining a lot of so-called girlfriends or boyfriends (they're just collecting).
The problem with these types of relationship, is that you can't really see the person for who he/she is. Yes, there are webcams and they could send out pictures, but by my own experience, I'd say there is around 85% chances that how they look online isn't how they look in real. Why 85% well, in my online life, I've met so many people already (most for friendship only a few for romantic links) and I could say not all of them look the same! True! When I met my fiance, yes I did meet him online, I swear he passed in front of me several times, and I honestly didn't notice it was him!
Another problem posted to online relationships is the fact that your romantic flare is limited to the use of technology. You can't really smell the person, you can't really experience the 'feel' of how he/she is in real (unless of course when you do meet up). So, when they do decide to meet, there are overwhelming differences and some attitudes may be far from what is expected. One of my experiences on this is when I first met a friend. She was really very outgoing online, but when we met, we were as silent as the tombs. I guess it was because I expected her to be loud, that's why when we met and she didn't really talk much, I had second-thoughts of maybe I met a different person. Hahaha..
But the single most common problem online is the honesty factor. In one of my readings here online, I stumbled upon an article with regards to the psychiatric activity of a person online. It said that people tend to lie more online rather than in person. I can really say it's true because around 90% of those chatting online would say that their single when in fact they're married. Anyone who lacks beauty can become the Ms Universe online. Even men become women and women may be men online. Not to mention that there are far more incidents of betrayal and cheating done online than in real life.
So, given these problems posted and more. Am I recommending or stopping people from falling in love online? No. As I first stated in this discussion, 'there's no right formula for love' each person has his/her own story of love, and who am I to tell them otherwise? right?
But I do have to share tips for you guys/gals there who are meaning to find mr. right or ms. right online. Here there are:
1. Try not to expect too much.
2. Meet up before committing.
3. Take it slow.
4. Meet before committing.
5. Meet before committing.
6. Meet before committing.
Hehe.. No, your eyes are not deceiving you, I did type 'meet before committing' several times because this is the best way for you to have a better relationship online. It's sad that most people have built their lives over someone online, only to find out after a long while, that the person (or our views on the person) doesn't really exist. I have a friend, who was so addicted with the online love, that when one of her suitors decided to send her a plane ticket to his place, she immediately jumped in and went there. To make the long story short, she got pregnant only to find out that the 5 kids in the guy's family home (with his parents and sister) was in fact his. And she didn't know that until she gave birth! Imagine the horror. And not only that, a wife existed too!
So, before plunging into the love pool. Please take a moment or two to use your minds before your heart. Yes, we might feel that we're lacking time, or view that the fish in the ocean are starting to dwindle and there might no longer be someone for you. But remember that you are a person of worth and of course as one of the most famous songs I've listened to for quite a long time now says:
LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF, IS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL.
Goodluck!
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